Embracing our higher selves
‘’ A happy existence is absolutely impossible
for anyone whose thoughts are often negative ...’’
Nobody ever
associates me with weakness; I guess this is because I have spent my life time
being strong for others. Wanting to be dependable, trustworthy and sensible at
all times, comes at a very high price and in my experience it is wearing a
facade as think as a dark cloud even when in truth you just want to break down,
pull a tantrum and cry! But then you remember you are ‘’you’’ and should you
allow your inner feelings prevail, who would even believe it’s that bad? So you
resign to fate, give your emotions a sound kick and suck it in.
Have you ever experienced the woes of the chatter box?
She is that unending voice in your head that creeps up on you
when you are most vulnerable, nags you to distraction and spoils your entire
day with thoughts you wish you never had.
She steals your smile, takes your confidence away. Worse
still, she follows you everywhere you go, driving you nuts with her talks that
initiates actions cumbered by fear, doubt and anxiety.
Do you know why I call her the chatter box?
It’s because she chatters non stop.
Don't ask me why I think she is a girl, maybe if you have
ever experienced the woes of the chatter box, she might be male to you. In my
experience she is a girl and she never seems to shut up, no matter how much I try.
She magnifies my mistakes and sounds some what like this when
she starts: ‘’oh why did speak up in the first place, did you think anyone would care about your opinions?
‘’you're not good
enough, don't you ever forget that!’’
Or
Worse still:”...Awww...shut up, who asked for your opinion?”
Suddenly everybody become the chatter box including you because
you reiterate what she says even if you hurt your self in the process! You begin
to believe her cause you accept her a way of life.
Listen there is a way out...honestly I’ve got your back on
this because I have lived it and as I share this I believe I'm helping my self embrace
positivity more. So as Africans say-if I scratch your back, you scratch mine
too and we'd both live a better life.
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Realize she exist:
One reason, you've never learnt to
shut her up is because you might not realize she exist, let alone speak. Be
more sensitive to your inner thoughts that way, you'd be ready when she creeps
up on you.
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Keep your mind occupied:
It is true that an idle mind is the
devil’s workshop. Only this time the devil has turned your mind on self destruct
mode. Fill your time with interesting activities and thoughts that make you
happy. Pick up a new hobby, write, read a novel, watch a film and if you're like me discover Jesus Christ! Fill your heart with prayer, praise and worship.
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Shhh...watch your words:
Your words are a reflection of your
inner thoughts and believe it or not when you speak that word that negates
positivity, you actually breathe life into a chain of negativity which hangs
like a cloud around you.
Ordinarily life on its own is tough
but when you speak negatively terrible situations just seem worse. Instead
learn to take charge of your mind-set.
Admit, “it might not be a satisfactory
but I ‘am making progress’’.
Admit,”It’s been a rough day but tomorrow
will be much better”
Admit, “I might feel sick but it’s a
brand new beautiful day and I ‘am going to enjoy it.’’
Listen Brother, refuse what your eyes
see, speak positivity, relax and let go.
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Never give up:
Now I wish the fruits of this journey
were instantaneous but nothing in life is, except it comes in a plastic sealed pack,
ready for delivery.
This should discourage you though because being self-judgmental
and lacking in endurance can only mean one thing,” you are not watching the
words you tell your inner self. The chatterbox is still in control but there
is good news.
Nobody gets it the first time! We all walk, fall, rise, dust
ourselves and start again. We never would have walked at all, if our parent barred
us from trying just because we fell and hurt ourselves while learning to walk.
So there it’s the same process.
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Watch the company you keep:
Friends who speak negatively wouldn’t do you any good! Our minds
are more fragile than we care to
admit but it is my submission that nature usually takes its course in such
situations because in most cases, negative company often seem to gradually drift
away from individuals who possess a positive outlook to life but it will do well
to take conscious note of those pessimist lurking around you.
Always bear in mind,
“...what you believe will
be done for you...”
Matthew 8:13
