“Don't worry
about being the perfect Dad, just need to be decent and true”
Thinking back he was more than just a meal
ticket, more than just that man who paid my school fees, put cloths on my back
and made sure I had a roof over my head.
So despite failing an impromptu task like
telling a complete stranger about my Dad in five sentences, I am apt to admit
that social science loses hands down here (Social science research constantly undermines the importance
of the father-child relationship).
The importance of fathers can not be
underestimated though most of us will readily agree that our relationships with
our fathers consisted of fewer words and tended to be less complex than what we
had with our mothers. Id describe mine as (a private storm) equally powerful
because it consisted of more drama than most-the pent up anger, the mounting
expectations ,the words that cut much to deep to mention a few. Mine operated
with fewer words than most once I turned fifteen and therein laid our greatest
undoing!
Most social ills prevalent in our present day
continue to point to the sad reality that homes are constantly churning out men
who are actually pre adult boys who lack self discipline. Often than not such
individuals can often be described as men who lack moral compass, are uncaring
about the world in which they live. They are often lacking in self esteem, know
absolutely nothing about the word integrity, are usually unmotivated and
painfully live for nothing more than their self gratification. Thus such
individuals are often ill prepared for their responsibilities as family men and
fathers.
There is a growing need for decent fathers,
who will disciple their off springs in the right direction.
- · Fathers who will press home the point that, freedom comes from conquering the need to act on a whim of one's basic human (fleshly) pleasures.
- · Fathers who will take time out through their actions to show, that Self-discipline involves acting on how you think and not how you feel.
- · Fathers who will prove that living a life instilled with discipline is a much more efficient way to live life. The end result, being that life is often less chaotic and easier should you wisely choose to tow this path.
- · Fathers who will be the trailblazers (standard) for which young girls will go by while choosing their life partners. Listen, I bet no one wants his kid accepting a proposal just because”he is the opposite of daddy.”
- · Fathers who in the long run will teach their Sons that they can be more than just that man that visits them on his off days, doles out money and runs off into another’s bosoms or plain ignores them.
A man who has chosen to be kind, God fearing, decent and
honest in all ramifications will do just fine. A man who has sworn and works at
being as sturdy as a firm rooftop above his family head in a world of raging
storms (affects the lives around him and the world positively) is valued far
more than all the diamonds and rubies the world has to offer.
Brothers, this
is an urgent call not necessarily for perfect fathers but decent fathers who
are consistent, engaging and present.
Your gist mate,
Shy
